Compassionate Help and Support for Kids and Families
Eagan, MN based psychotherapy that builds on existing strengths to increase the possibility that children and families can live easier, better, more fulfilled lives.
I work with children 18 months to 18 years old, parents, and families.
I love working with transgender or gender expansive children and LGBTQ+ families, and I also enjoy supporting children with autism spectrum disorders (ASD), developmental delays or disabilities, histories of trauma (including medical trauma), and other emotional/behavioral challenges. I value caregivers as experts on their families. I partner with caregivers to make a plan that will benefit the whole family, using a strengths-based approach in which what already works is a foundation for further growth and development.
I also work individually with parents of all sorts. Parenting is a massive challenge, and it can bring up all sorts of things, from parents' past and present. Being able to work through those things can be powerfully healing for parents, allowing them to be their best selves for themselves and for their kids.
Individual therapy for kids is based in three main foundations: SMART (sensorimotor arousal regulation training), narrative therapy, and solution-focused therapy. This lets us pay attention to kids' needs to manage their feelings and emotions; stories they tell about themselves, the past, and the future; and the behaviors that keep kids stuck or can help them get unstuck.
Dr. Kai has monthly playgroups for transgender and gender non-conforming kids, ages 3 - 7 (fourth Sunday of the month) and 7-10 (third Sunday of the month).
He also runs support groups for parents of trans and GNC kids, both pubescent/adolescent (first Sunday of the month) and prepubescent (second Sunday of the month).
Family-oriented therapy includes a positive approach to help families identify their values and strengths and to build on them, viewing parents as the experts on their own children and families. It includes actionable strategies families can use right away to improve their lives.
Parenting is hard. I offer the support parents need to be able to feel the best they can for themselves and in their role as parents.